Valuable Lesson

self esteem

When I was growing up, my parents taught me a valuable lesson.  It’s a lesson that every parent should teach their children as they grow up in this world full of pathetic individuals.  That lesson was this:

“Never think more highly of yourself because there’s always someone out there who’s more knowledgeable, more athletic, more intelligent, more well-equipped.”  

Those might seem like harsh, negative words to speak to a child, but they really were very loving.  

They have helped me through life to understand and accept that I don’t know everything and I don’t always have the skills necessary to complete a task.  Sadly, many cattle today haven’t been teaching their calves that same lesson, and I find that to be extremely pathetic.

If you take a moment to consider all the cattle in the world today, and think about the few select individuals who have crossed paths with you (including family and friends), ask yourself…are they really the best person to give advice?  The best person to help others through problems?  The best person to hang out with?  The best person to have a relationship with?  The best person to marry?

Ask those same questions of yourself. 

Now, consider these: Do you give sound advice or do you feed them too much of your own opinion?  Are you considerate of their needs or do you spend more time taking from them to fill your own needs?   Do you listen well or do all the talking?  

Technically, because we all see ourselves as being the well-rounded, kindhearted, pathetically influenced bovine that others don’t see, you probably can’t answer those questions the same way your friends and family would answer them about you. 

You well-trained followers seem to go about your days doing the thing that you were taught and encouraged to do…strive to achieve, strive to get ahead, strive to accomplish something…you’re all taught from the very moment that you leave the womb that you’re capable, that you have what others don’t have, that you are good, better, best.  All the while never even considering whether or not those words were actually true or even if you were the best available option to accomplish anything at all.  

Some might refer to it as “believing in yourself”, but I like to refer to it as “pathetic” because the truth is, no one ever seems to consider that if given the choice of billions of other bovine in the world who are probably better equipped you probably weren’t the best choice after all.  You just happened be at the right place at the right time and were able to perform triage until the better equipped surgeon shows up.

And that isn’t having a “belief in yourself” it’s . . . “causing undo stress in others”,  “causing a bigger problem”, “disrupting the space-time continuum”.   

In a nutshell . . .it’s ignorance. . . but you being the self-motivated individual you are, you charge ahead never thinking about how your ineptitude is causing a massive ripple effect of havoc-wreaking pathetic in the lives of others.  

It’s really sad.   

In conclusion, people who think more highly of themselves than they ought is really pathetic.  

 

Missed Opportunities

missed opportunity

What do you do when everything inside you tells you that you’re going to be a failure, but when you see that one person who takes your breath away you suddenly have the confidence of 1000 men?

Do you approach them?  Do you say hello?  Do you just stand there gawking like a weirdo and repress the confidence with negative thoughts?  

In my case, I approach them and say hello.  I’m kinda weird like that, except this morning…I saw a woman walking into the building where I get my morning coffee, and since I wasn’t having a very good morning, my spirit was kind of. . . disgruntled.  

Anyway, she was walking in the building ahead of me and held the door for myself and another person.  For a brief moment she looked up at me and when our eyes met, my confidence grew.  I can’t really explain it, it just did.  

As we walked closer to the elevators, she flipped her hair a few times and kind of slowed down a bit to let me catch up.  All the signs were there and I felt like saying hello or asking her how she was doing this morning, however, instead of saying anything to her I let her get on the elevator and never even looked back.  

I have no idea who she is.  No idea if I’ll ever see her again.  No idea if I’ll ever have the opportunity to introduce myself again.  

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Missed opportunities are pathetic, but sometimes being a guy and feeling like you’re the one who has to make the move all the time can be really pathetic as well.