Valuable Lesson

self esteem

When I was growing up, my parents taught me a valuable lesson.  It’s a lesson that every parent should teach their children as they grow up in this world full of pathetic individuals.  That lesson was this:

“Never think more highly of yourself because there’s always someone out there who’s more knowledgeable, more athletic, more intelligent, more well-equipped.”  

Those might seem like harsh, negative words to speak to a child, but they really were very loving.  

They have helped me through life to understand and accept that I don’t know everything and I don’t always have the skills necessary to complete a task.  Sadly, many cattle today haven’t been teaching their calves that same lesson, and I find that to be extremely pathetic.

If you take a moment to consider all the cattle in the world today, and think about the few select individuals who have crossed paths with you (including family and friends), ask yourself…are they really the best person to give advice?  The best person to help others through problems?  The best person to hang out with?  The best person to have a relationship with?  The best person to marry?

Ask those same questions of yourself. 

Now, consider these: Do you give sound advice or do you feed them too much of your own opinion?  Are you considerate of their needs or do you spend more time taking from them to fill your own needs?   Do you listen well or do all the talking?  

Technically, because we all see ourselves as being the well-rounded, kindhearted, pathetically influenced bovine that others don’t see, you probably can’t answer those questions the same way your friends and family would answer them about you. 

You well-trained followers seem to go about your days doing the thing that you were taught and encouraged to do…strive to achieve, strive to get ahead, strive to accomplish something…you’re all taught from the very moment that you leave the womb that you’re capable, that you have what others don’t have, that you are good, better, best.  All the while never even considering whether or not those words were actually true or even if you were the best available option to accomplish anything at all.  

Some might refer to it as “believing in yourself”, but I like to refer to it as “pathetic” because the truth is, no one ever seems to consider that if given the choice of billions of other bovine in the world who are probably better equipped you probably weren’t the best choice after all.  You just happened be at the right place at the right time and were able to perform triage until the better equipped surgeon shows up.

And that isn’t having a “belief in yourself” it’s . . . “causing undo stress in others”,  “causing a bigger problem”, “disrupting the space-time continuum”.   

In a nutshell . . .it’s ignorance. . . but you being the self-motivated individual you are, you charge ahead never thinking about how your ineptitude is causing a massive ripple effect of havoc-wreaking pathetic in the lives of others.  

It’s really sad.   

In conclusion, people who think more highly of themselves than they ought is really pathetic.  



Missed Opportunities

missed opportunity

What do you do when everything inside you tells you that you’re going to be a failure, but when you see that one person who takes your breath away you suddenly have the confidence of 1000 men?

Do you approach them?  Do you say hello?  Do you just stand there gawking like a weirdo and repress the confidence with negative thoughts?  

In my case, I approach them and say hello.  I’m kinda weird like that, except this morning…I saw a woman walking into the building where I get my morning coffee, and since I wasn’t having a very good morning, my spirit was kind of. . . disgruntled.  

Anyway, she was walking in the building ahead of me and held the door for myself and another person.  For a brief moment she looked up at me and when our eyes met, my confidence grew.  I can’t really explain it, it just did.  

As we walked closer to the elevators, she flipped her hair a few times and kind of slowed down a bit to let me catch up.  All the signs were there and I felt like saying hello or asking her how she was doing this morning, however, instead of saying anything to her I let her get on the elevator and never even looked back.  

I have no idea who she is.  No idea if I’ll ever see her again.  No idea if I’ll ever have the opportunity to introduce myself again.  


Missed opportunities are pathetic, but sometimes being a guy and feeling like you’re the one who has to make the move all the time can be really pathetic as well. 



Confidence is a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something.  It’s positivity with or without reinforcement.  A belief that you will succeed in the midst of unknown variables.  And sometimes, it’s just downright stupidity during the most agonizing and perilous of times.

In it’s simplest of forms confidence is faith.

But the other day while watching a John Wayne movie, I was puzzled when I saw three straight commercials that alluded to the notion that people won’t have confidence unless they have the right apparel or figure.

The first one said I needed the correct frames for my glasses.

I don’t wear glasses, and even if I did, I don’t think the frames would really give me all that much confidence.  Unless they were the exact frames that Superman wears while masquerading as Clark Kent.  Those would give me a ton of confidence but it would be pathetic confidence because everyone knows that Clark Kent doesn’t have any super powers.

The next commercial informed me that I needed to wear the correct bra to have confidence.

support braNow that’s just plain silly.  For starters I don’t wear a bra and if I did, would an undergarment really provide the confidence I need to walk into a burning building and rescue a family of six along with their three cats, two dogs and a flock of homing pigeons?  I think not.

The third commercial informed me that I would possess a lot more confidence if I reduced my overall body weight and had a more fit and trim appearance.

Believe me, I’ve had a fit and trim body for a number of years.  I lifted weights every day for the better part of my life and a couple years ago I ran 15 – 30 miles a week.  But I’ve also struggled in the distant past with being overweight and quite honestly, I was more confident when I was overweight than I am now.

But according to the commercials I need to be a combination of Flash Gordon and the Incredible Hulk.  In other words, fast and sleek with a muscular build, and that just seems like an oxymoron.

flash1So, if I listen to television commercials based on those three criteria alone, I’d have to wear glasses like Clark Kent, have the physique like the Incredible Hulk, run like Flash Gordon and wear a bra that gives me the added support a regular bra doesn’t to finally obtain the confidence I need to get out of bed in the morning.

How Pathetic is that?

Truth is none of us need any of that stuff to have confidence.  All we need are a few successes in life. 

It’s about taking a chance and not looking back when and if you fail, but seeing the rewards at the end and keeping a clear focus on what you desire to obtain.  It’s about perseverance through adversity.  Being able to gather all your strength and believing that even if you do fail, you’ll be still be alive to give it one more try.  

It’s amazing how a cheering section and just one or two victories in life can boost our self confidence even when things look bleak and formidable.

Television commercials give a false or misleading idea of what confidence really is.  It’s a con, and that’s just pathetic. 

However, it can’t hurt to have a pair of those Clark Kent frames.



Egotistic Freaks

Awesomer than you

People with egos are the worst.  

They have a need to always be right.  They think more highly of themselves than they should. They even create blogs telling the world how right they are about something that anyone can find out by going to the library.

They have this disgusting idea that everyone cares about their petty little problems.  Therefore, they feel it necessary to repeat their petty little problems over and over again until the problem actually becomes a victory for them.  That’s when they really get annoying because the supposed “victory” becomes an embellished, overly exaggerated, fluffed up piece of….

…ahem!…. I think you get the idea…

Anyway, Egotistic people are pompous, arrogant, self righteous blowhards who have very little knowledge, but they love to express their “smartness” by “borrowing” ideas from someone else and making others believe it was their own.


They always correct your grammar or misspellings.  They think their egotistic, freak-a-zoid nature is called: “confidence”.  Truth is, it’s called…an ‘EGO‘!   

They have their head so far up their backsides that they have lost all knowledge of reality. 

They are normally the one standing in line talking on their cell phone while the barista is waiting to take their order, but that phone conversation about how the neighbor’s grass cutting skills is WAY more important!

They believe that every decision they make is the correct one, even though it will ultimately bring a distorted sense of under-achievement and pain to another person’s life.  


They usually end up being the person who does the least amount of work and get the most accolades. 

They spend more time looking in the mirror at their own reflection, instead of actually reflecting on their own self absorbed image and changing the inner complexities of their self righteous persona.

Oh!  And let’s not forget their children!  

Egotistic people have this idea that their children are the most awesome, most talented children on the planet. 

They make it a point to tell everyone they come in contact with just how “great” those little egotistic bastards are because, let’s face it, their offspring came from their seed so the world must know how less fortunate it is to not have them as their own!


Egotistic people seem to never take into consideration that other people actually matter, let alone…exist!   It makes me bitter that I have to share the planet’s resources with such people.

Egotistic people are pathetic.