He Said, She Said…

Men and women do not communicate the same.  For example here’s a conversation between a long-time married couple that I overheard this past weekend…

Husband:  “Would you like a cookie?”

Wife: “I had a bowl of fruit earlier.”

Husband:  “Does that mean you want a cookie?”

Wife:  “I had a bowl of fruit earlier.”

Husband:  “When did you have a bowl of fruit?”

Wife:  “It was after I had the cereal.”

Husband:  “That was eight hours ago!”

Wife:  “What kind of cookies are they?”

Husband:  “Oatmeal chocolate chip.”

Wife:  “I guess a bowl of fruit would be nice.”  

Husband:  “So you don’t want a cookie, you want a bowl of fruit?”

Wife:  “I didn’t say that.  You don’t listen.  I SAID a bowl of fruit would be nice.”

Husband:  “I am listening…you said a bowl of fruit would be nice…that tells me you don’t want a cookie because that’s what I’m hearing.”

Wife (clearly frustrated):  “I didn’t say that.  I said a bowl of fruit would be nice.”  

Husband:  “Okay.  A bowl of fruit and I’ll include an oatmeal chocolate chip cookie in case you decide you want one.”

Wife:  “Thank you.  Was that so difficult?”

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Okay…now that same conversation between two men…

First guy: “do you want a cookie?”

Second guy: “Sure, thanks!” 

End of conversation! 

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It’s pathetic how men and women are so different when it comes to communicating.

 

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Harassmentgate 2017

This may come as a shock, but over the course of my working career I’ve been sexually harassed by both genders…women and men.

Let me begin with the woman who felt it necessary to touch me in a manner that made me really uncomfortable.  — She actually confessed to the manager that she had feelings for me and was hoping I would feel the same.  She thought touching me in certain ways and at different times would give a subtle hint… — umm…not so much.  

A few years before that there was a woman who made it a point to tell our co-workers that she was going to marry me and we were going to have lots of children together….of course this was without my consent or knowledge…heck!  I later found out that to top it off, she even went so far as to order a wedding cake and plan out the ceremony she was going to have with me as the groom! . . . . sigh . . . Wasn’t that sweet of her? — let me answer that for ya . . . Nope! 

Of course there was also the middle-aged homosexual man who made it a point to conveniently have a cigarette every morning just outside the door that led to my office.  I always found it weird why he would chase follow me and another male co-worker into the office and offer us treats, homemade goodies or give us compliments on our looks and ask us over to dinner.  — uhhh…thanks but, I’m into girls.  

Since this is a PG rated blog, I’m only sharing the less graphic versions of my adventures in harassment.  I could go further into detail, but that’s just a waste of your time and mine.  

Believe me when I tell you that I’ve had my fair share of people who have made unwanted sexual advances towards me in the work place; however, every single time it’s happened, I’ve tolerated it for a few weeks before I finally said something to them about how uncomfortable it was.  If they didn’t get my hint, I would take the matter up with my supervisors or human resources to put an end to it.

No matter how embarrassing it might be.  No matter what it might do to my career.  I didn’t want to let it drag on, I didn’t want to make excuses like, “oh well, people are just that way,” and I didn’t tolerate it for the sake of my career.

Some of you might be thinking or saying… “yeah, but you’re a guy.  It’s easier for you to stand up and say something.”

Uhhh . . . . NO   .   IT   .   IS   .   NOT!

You have no idea how many times I thought about staying quiet and just coping with the situation hoping it would just blow over.  Truth is, since I was a guy, I was afraid that no one would believe me, or worse, that I’d become the joke of the office.  

Eventually I realized that if I didn’t speak up, these people who were making me uncomfortable would have power over me for a long time to come, and they would never stop.  Worse yet, that I would never have another day where I felt comfortable coming to work or leaving my home.  

Don’t misunderstand, it wasn’t easy confronting the person who was making me uncomfortable or going to my supervisor and telling them a co-worker was making me uncomfortable, but I had to do it.  I had to suck it up and realize that if I lost my job because the company decided to back a person who made me uncomfortable, then that wasn’t a company I wanted to work for.  Not too mention, that if my supervisor didn’t care enough about me to take me seriously and investigate the situation, then that wasn’t a person I wanted to work for either.  

That’s why this whole mess of accusers who are coming forward with claims they were harassed 20, 30 or 40 years ago, doesn’t sit well with me.  Nor does it sit well with me that people are getting fired over these claims and accusations without due process.

These people (both men and women) are just NOW coming forward with all these accusations of unwanted sexual harassment?    

Taking a look back at the events that transpired when I approached my supervisors, I made certain that they investigated the situation and formed a case before taking any actions.  They interviewed people who were witnesses, they took the time to gather evidence and conspicuously confronted the accused to form a case before taking it to human resources, handling the matter outright or even taking legal action.

It disappointments me that the accusers today aren’t interested in forming a case against those they accused.  Whether it did or did not happen, the accusers just want to be right and want their brand of justice.  — Get them fired.  Get them out.  They hurt me and I want the world to know it! — The motives of these people can be described in one word:  REVENGE.

In my past situations I never wanted revenge.  I just wanted the people who were making lewd comments to stop so I could be comfortable going to work for 8+ hours a day.  

Revenge is not a good thing because it reveals the true side of the human heart.  The corruption and hatred, the selfishness and pride, the arrogance, the bitterness, the strife.  

It really amazes me how no one seems to be calling out these accusers for waiting for so long.  What is their motive?  Why now?  Why did they wait so long?!?! Instead, they form social media groups and hashtag labels to let others join in the #metoo campaign.  

They call it “strength in numbers”…

I call it Pathetic!! 

It’s also pathetic how harassmentgate 2017 has ballooned into this horrible mess of pathetic stupidity when none of this should be happening right now because the accusers who are claiming “harassment” should have stood up years ago and put the accused in their place then…not waiting some 20, 30 or 40 years in the future to get their revenge!

Ironically, their revenge is bitter sweet because all of the accused have amassed fortunes over the years, and are living high on the hog.  If they get fired from whatever they were doing, so what!  They just take their fortunes and run.  

Retirement, here they come!   

You know, I’m not shocked by it, but in all honesty I find it difficult to understand how the world has become such a horrible place to live.  How did we get here?

The world is filled with followers who are flat out pathetically crazy, and more and more cattle decide to wander into the other pasture following the masses down a broad road of destruction.  

It’s pathetic they are even considered part of the human race.

 

The truth is still truth even if you don’t agree…

 

If you run a red light or a stop sign, you know that you broke the law.  

It doesn’t matter if you didn’t cause an accident, the truth is that you broke the law and you know you broke the law because the law says…don’t run a red light and don’t run a stop sign.  

But the world today wants to tell you that running a red light or a stop sign is okay because the law was meant to be broken if it feels okay to you.  

The world will tell you that as long as you feel okay with running the red light or the stop sign, you’re not doing anything wrong because you didn’t hurt anyone.  They will tell you that breaking the law is up to you because it just depends on how you feel.  

So what if everyone feels okay with running red lights or the stop signs?  Wouldn’t that create a mass amount of chaos?  

You see, the law, not to run a red light or a stop sign, isn’t there to protect you from other people.  Whether you agree or disagree, the fact remains…the law was written to protect you from the one person that would bring you the most harm…

The law was created to protect you from yourself.

YOU …don’t lie.

YOU …don’t commit murder

YOU …don’t covet

YOU …don’t steal… and so on and so forth.

Yet the world wants to proclaim that the law wasn’t created to protect you from yourself.  The world wants to proclaim that the law wasn’t created for any other reason than a simplistic guide for others to not harm you…but, of course, that’s only based on how they feel at that given moment.

yet!!… God himself is looking you in the eye and stating quite clearly…

YOU!!    YOU!!!    YOU!!!!!!!  

Obey the law!!!  

And when you don’t obey the law, there are repercussions.  

Also, there are repercussions for being repeatedly disobedient to God’s law, which brings us to  Romans 1: 18-32

For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them.  For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.

For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened.  Professing to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.

Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them.  For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.

For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.

And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.

You may disagree with God’s commandments.  You may not agree with God’s plan.  You may not agree with the word of God. Heck, you may not agree with the law of God, but the truth still remains…No matter how much you disagree with God’s commandments, plans, words or laws…that does not nullify any of them, and living a life of disobedience to God will only lead you to one place…

Separation from God for all eternity.  

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There’s a common lie being spread through the churches today that God accepts you just the way you are, but based on Romans 1:18-32 that message just is not true.  

God will not accept blatantly disobedient people.  

God will not accept those who blatantly disregard His laws and commandments or live a life that is contrary to His truth.  

God will not accept any person who’s lives are filled with wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; gossip, slander, hate of God, insolence, arrogance, boasting, inventions of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving or unmerciful.

The truth is, God will only accept those who’s heart is humble and who express true feelings of remorse affected by the guilt of wrongdoing..in one word:  contrite.

God will tolerate disobedience for only so long…

Word to the wise….Don’t test the patience of God.      

 

 

What to Expect on a Day Without Women…From a Man’s Perspective…

For some reason liberal women think the world will stop revolving without them showing up for work for one day…

 

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Thank you for that laugh.  I needed that this morning (as he drys the tears of joy from his eyes).

You silly women who bought into the idea that you’re all that and a bag of bovine chips.  You really have no idea how thankful we men are that you didn’t show up for work.

Because a day without women in the work place…

…is the day men get to make decisions without having someone interject their “feelings” about how they don’t agree with the decision that needed to be made. 

…is the day men are able to work in silence.  

…is the day men can talk like men without fear of persecution or harassment.

…is the day we men have more bathrooms to use. 

…is the day men don’t have to listen to some pathetic conversation about a soap opera, the bachelor, a pathetic failed relationship, complaints about how men never listen, stupid telephone conversations and how children won’t behave.

…is the day “bitchy” won’t be used to describe someone.  

…is the day that will go down in history as a day of rejoicing for all men.   

 

It’s pathetic for women to think that they are SOOO important to the work place that not showing up for one day will cause the world to collapse and all men to view them differently. 

 

Impress Me

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The other day I happened to read a pathetic post about what men should do if they want to impress a girl they find attractive.  

The post contained things like…“be honest”, “show her you have a skill”, “make her laugh”, “be confident”, “show her that you’re able to protect, but don’t be domineering and possessive about it”…all of which is convenient for the pathetic, lonely guy who still lives in this mother’s basement, but for all the other pathetic men in the world. . .

Not so much!  

The truth is, as I was reading the post, I became more and more agitated because the post made it sound as if men — being the lumps of coal they are — are in no way deserving of a pretty girl to be on his arm unless he can prove he’s worthy.

It reminded me of those old fairy tales where the main character has to validate his existence and substantiate his might for the beautiful princess by trudging his way through a dangerously dark forest, across a vastly arid desert, galumphing up the side of a very steep mountain only to come face-to-face with a pathetically mighty dragon who breathes excruciatingly hot fire.

And as I thought more about it, I felt compelled to ask a few questions. . . .

Why are men expected to do this?  Let alone…why do men feel the need to do this?  

Also, why is it that men should have to impress any woman?  

And in reality, shouldn’t it be the other way around?  Shouldn’t the female gender have to impress the men?

I mean, in all honesty we men would like to know what characteristics or traits a woman can provide to a relationship that would convince us that we should choose her and not someone else?

After all, nowadays we men…(me, personally)…bring a hell of a lot to a relationship, and if you don’t believe me, here’s a list (please note that these are traits and characteristics that I possess, so not all men can provide these same traits because all men are not really created equal):

I know how to cook and bake and follow a recipe.

I bathe every day and try not to smell funny.

I’m clean and organized.

I have proper oral hygiene.

I’m financially responsible, and save money.

I have a good, steady job.

I’m college educated.

I don’t drink alcoholic beverages.

I don’t and never have done illegal drugs.

I don’t lie or cheat.

I don’t gamble.

I don’t have tattoos or piercings.

I have a relationship with Jesus, and He IS my LORD and KING. 

I pray and communicate with Him and God the Father every day. 

I know how to work on automobiles.

I know how to fish and camp. 

I do my best to be respectful and considerate of others around me.

I can plant and tend a garden.

I have never had sex…yes, I’ve fooled around, but never done the actual deed, so I don’t have any sexually transmitted diseases or illegitimate children.

I know how to hang drywall.

I can work on plumbing and electrical.

I’ve never cheated on anyone I’ve dated and never will.

I’m a patient person who has the will-power to resist the things I know aren’t beneficial to a healthy, productive life. 

I can rebuild a computer from individual parts to a fully functional operational device.

I have a decent singing voice.

I’m good with kids, I like them and they seem to like me and I’m not afraid to discipline when needed.

I clear the table and wash the dishes by hand or load the dish washer when needed.

I spend time with my family, especially my mom and dad who don’t get out much these days because of a physical illness.

I have compassion for others.

I open doors for women, walk closest to the curb when needed and provide a safe environment for them.

And I try my best to stand up for those who don’t have a voice.

There are many other traits I bring to a relationship, but these are just a few that came to mind.  So … again …I pose the question. . .What makes a woman think she’s good enough that I should choose her?  

Can she provide safety and comfort to our children?  Is she compassionate, kind and loving?  Can she change a flat tire on her own?  Does she mind getting a little dirty? Would she be willing to trudge through a dark, scary forest to save me if I were captured by an evil, fire-breathing dragon?

Truth is, we should never have to try to impress anyone.  We should just be happy that someone wants to spend time with us and that we get to spend time with them.  While doing so, we should get to know them so well that we can finish their sentences and know how to meet there needs before they even ask because that’s what love really is. . .

Spending time with people and learning about them, getting to know them, building trust with them and in them, caring for them, providing for and meeting their needs.    

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It’s pathetic that we try so hard to impress others to get their attention or make them like us.  After all, we’re just human beings who are all in this life together.  

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Humiliation

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Yet again a woman I liked uttered those humiliating words. . .

“I don’t want to date you.  Please don’t pursue me.”  

And after replying with,  “okay.  I won’t.  we’re just friends.  I get it…”  I then heard in a rather pathetic, albeit panicked and stressed, tone…

“No…I really mean it.  Please don’t pursue me!  I really don’t want to date you.”

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I gotta tell ya, to hear those words for the umpteenth time in my life is not any easier than the first time I heard them.  I take it personally.

It’s very much like having a dagger slowly but firmly pressed deep into my chest until it penetrates my heart and once the perpetrator knows they have shoved the dagger deep enough into my chest . . . they proceed to give it a few twists.

Painfully speaking, I’ve also found that once is not enough for a woman to tell me her desire that I not pursue her.

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For some reason. . . maybe it’s because they think I’m a pathetically dense idiot like all the other hapless Joe’s on the block. . . they feel the need to repeat their command a second time…however, the second time is when they feel the necessity to drive the point home with added emphasis on specific words such as, really don’t and you.

After all, it’s obviously not enough pathetic humiliation for me to wear my heart on my sleeve and tell someone who doesn’t feel the same way that I like them.  

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For the Women

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A study conducted at UCLA’s Department of Psychiatry has revealed that the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle or past menopause.

For example: If she is ovulating, she is attracted to a men with rugged and masculine features.

However, if she is menstruating, or menopausal, she tends to me more attracted to a man with duct tape over his mouth and a spear lodged in his chest while he is on fire.

No further studies are expected.