Valuable Lesson

self esteem

When I was growing up, my parents taught me a valuable lesson.  It’s a lesson that every parent should teach their children as they grow up in this world full of pathetic individuals.  That lesson was this:

“Never think more highly of yourself because there’s always someone out there who’s more knowledgeable, more athletic, more intelligent, more well-equipped.”  

Those might seem like harsh, negative words to speak to a child, but they really were very loving.  

They have helped me through life to understand and accept that I don’t know everything and I don’t always have the skills necessary to complete a task.  Sadly, many cattle today haven’t been teaching their calves that same lesson, and I find that to be extremely pathetic.

If you take a moment to consider all the cattle in the world today, and think about the few select individuals who have crossed paths with you (including family and friends), ask yourself…are they really the best person to give advice?  The best person to help others through problems?  The best person to hang out with?  The best person to have a relationship with?  The best person to marry?

Ask those same questions of yourself. 

Now, consider these: Do you give sound advice or do you feed them too much of your own opinion?  Are you considerate of their needs or do you spend more time taking from them to fill your own needs?   Do you listen well or do all the talking?  

Technically, because we all see ourselves as being the well-rounded, kindhearted, pathetically influenced bovine that others don’t see, you probably can’t answer those questions the same way your friends and family would answer them about you. 

You well-trained followers seem to go about your days doing the thing that you were taught and encouraged to do…strive to achieve, strive to get ahead, strive to accomplish something…you’re all taught from the very moment that you leave the womb that you’re capable, that you have what others don’t have, that you are good, better, best.  All the while never even considering whether or not those words were actually true or even if you were the best available option to accomplish anything at all.  

Some might refer to it as “believing in yourself”, but I like to refer to it as “pathetic” because the truth is, no one ever seems to consider that if given the choice of billions of other bovine in the world who are probably better equipped you probably weren’t the best choice after all.  You just happened be at the right place at the right time and were able to perform triage until the better equipped surgeon shows up.

And that isn’t having a “belief in yourself” it’s . . . “causing undo stress in others”,  “causing a bigger problem”, “disrupting the space-time continuum”.   

In a nutshell . . .it’s ignorance. . . but you being the self-motivated individual you are, you charge ahead never thinking about how your ineptitude is causing a massive ripple effect of havoc-wreaking pathetic in the lives of others.  

It’s really sad.   

In conclusion, people who think more highly of themselves than they ought is really pathetic.  



12 thoughts on “Valuable Lesson

  1. This was really good. There’s a downside to teaching people they’re special snowflakes, they feel entitled and therefore abused when life does not go their way, so they become perpetual victims.

    When Sarah Pain found out she was a carrying a kid with downs syndrome, she wrote about lamenting, why me? Her husband asked her, why not us? When we believe we’re entitled to have a perfect child, a perfect spouse, a perfect life, because we’re just that awesome, it makes us feel deprived, envious, persecuted. When we understand we are entitled to nothing, everything becomes a gift. So rather then lamenting our suffering, we can ask ourselves, why shouldn’t I suffer? Am I not just as worthy as anyone else? That becomes a place of genuine power, where even the bad things become a real privilege.

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  2. Humility is not popular these days, but excuses are.

    Never think more highly of yourself because there’s always someone out there who’s more knowledgeable, more athletic, more intelligent, more well-equipped.

    What that line is supposed to do is remind us that we need to look outward and upward for knowledge and wisdom, that we do not know it all. Only God is God, and only God is perfect.

    What we often do instead is point to someone else and make someone else responsible. After all, someone else has more knowledge, more wisdom, more time, more money, more charm, more…..

    What the Bible teaches is that we accept responsibility. We don’t point to someone else. We set the example. We do what we can do as best we we can do it, and we ask for others in the herd to help to make it better.

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  3. The overtones were a little negative, but thank you for this post. If more cattle (I mean, people) understood this concept, the herd instinct would be weakened.

    My parents did not teach this concept to me. But during an introspective moment in high school, I came to the conclusion that no matter what I am doing, there is someone in the world who can do that better than I can. That has helped me to keep things in perspective since then.

    I have since realized that no one can do a better job of being me than I can, and so I shouldn’t try to be someone else. Because of that, I often find myself at an uncrowded section of the fence, away from the herd. Without regrets.

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  4. Two things my Dad told me when I was growing up:
    I could have anything I wanted……. provided I saved for it.
    Be nice to the ‘little people’ on the way up. You never know who you’ll meet on the way down.

    Could account for why we don’t have very much (but what we do have is paid for) and why we always thank people who serve us in shops or cafes etc

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