An Open Apology to My Ex-Girlfriend

After having a few days to think about the situation and pray over it, I realize now that all I want is for you to be happy.  That’s all I have EVER wanted for you. 

Please forgive me for the harsh knee-jerk reaction I had in my post about being in a bad mood.  It was a jealous and very childish response to your wonderful celebration of unity and love.  I don’t desire that you or your new husband deal with any undue pain or illness.  That was wrong and not very kind or Christlike of me to say.  I hope you can forgive me. 

I’m hopeful that God will bless you both and give you the love that you have always been searching for in a spouse.  I hope he’s able to possess the confidence and spiritual leadership that you desire from a husband, and I pray that he’s able to love and protect you, honor you and cherish you, support you and pray over you all the days that God gives you together on this Earth. 

I know you like to compete, but if you choose to compete for anything with your new husband, make it a competition to see which of you can love the other more. 

Don’t harbor resentment against him if he doesn’t do the things you want, or if he fails to follow through on a goal that he has set.  Let the wrongs suffered remain in the past and look at the future with eyes always on the One who brought you together. 

Cherish him.  Console him.  Honor him.  Pray for him.  Love him.

In conclusion, I hope your new marriage and this journey that God has established for you both is filled with warmth, compassion, laughter, grace and many wonderful memories. 

Always remember that I miss you…and I still love you.

I always will.

God bless you both and may you live long and enjoy every moment together. 

Because if anyone deserves it …  you do.

Congratulations, sweetheart.




43 thoughts on “An Open Apology to My Ex-Girlfriend

  1. Sounds a whole lot like surrender, which I know is so much easier to say (or write) than do…it’s actually down right hard, isn’t it?! Especially when the urge to pick the hurt and emotion back up can strike at any moment…and then again moments later. 😉 She may not be your enemy, but you extended the kind of love that God calls us too…the kind we give even when we don’t feel like it. I think He would be well pleased. 🙂

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  2. There’s something about moments like these, in which we realize that love is all we have to give, no matter the situation. It brings us back to our true purpose for living; the inescapable unity of our souls with the entire universe.

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  3. I liked the snarky, childish letter better 😉 Just bein’ honest …

    And I don’t think you need to apologize for your feelings. You felt hurt. You were grieving. Anger is often a part of grief … and moving on. I’d be more concerned if you felt nothing and moved on like a robot.

    Anyway, pretty soon she WILL be a memory … a distant one. Hard to believe now, but yep, it’s possible!

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  4. A very mature response. I’m glad you managed to deal with this graciously and I pray you find a wonderful wife of your own in the future. I must confess, I myself am struggling with some unrequited love that I need to overcome, and seeing your strength has helped me – all you should ever want for anyone is to be loved. God bless you.

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    • 🙂 thank you. It’s been a journey that God is leading me through and one that hasn’t been easy to let go of or overcome. Let Him have it. Confess your feelings, doubts and troubles; but more than anything, be thankful that God is walking with you through this because without Him, it’s an impossible journey. I’ll pray for you because I know you need it. If you ever need to talk, here’s my email:


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